Sports etiquette...
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Coaching kids typically is a thankless job, but most are great! And I take the opportunity whenever I can to thank all the efforts made by any coach or volunteer, even if I disagree with them. THANK YOU!

Devoting time, money and effort towards teaching our kids fundamentals, discipline, respect, teamwork and sportsmanship isn’t for everyone. And I personally have done it myself several times. Yet a single coach isn’t enough to adequately provide attention to all players on a team simultaneously. The “head coach” must rely on the help of parents and volunteers. Unfortunately many parents take advantage of these sports programs to “babysit” their kid, and have no intention of helping.

There is a saying: “Before you complain, have you volunteered?” But what happens when you do volunteer and you are ignored? What happens when the coach doesn’t communicate? What happens when you disagree with how your child or other players are being coached and treated? What happens when parents and players are frustrated because they aren’t practicing? What happens when a coach is rude, confrontational or fights with players or parents (or vice versa)? What happens when you see favoritism? What happens when you are concerned over player safety? What happens when a coach’s egotistical attitude is allowed to persist? You complain.

I would like to think that as the adults in the situation, we would all RELAX first (because these are kids and it’s a game). Then converse about what is happening, off field. And create a rational plan of action to move forward. You know, not act like bickering “children.”

It’s a nice thought, but it rarely happens. Why? Because many parents complain but don’t want to create confrontation or face volunteering. Most just ignore it; some don’t.

However, when it does happen and someone is called out, the response lately from Moab City Recreation either does nothing or dismisses the conversation as “just complaining.” They then empower coaches, staff and referees to remove those who may be questioning a “what happens when...” This opens the door to allowing coaches to openly criticize parents, players or volunteers. I, and many others, have witnessed this several times in past years.

A sad reality of growing up is many players don’t want to play anymore, mostly because they find other interests. But it is despicable when they don’t want to play anymore because of the program or the way they are being coached.

—Matt Ceniceros


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